A family is a foundational structure affirming and amplifying the greater community. The familial unit is the nucleic prototype of the larger community it creates. Without strong kinship structure, there is no community. If the home unit is divided or dysfunctional the community has no choice but to reflect this same condition.
“Family”, as defined, does not necessarily need to reflect the western nuclear model. In many ways, this fragmented form of a household is what has led to many of the problems we’re currently seeing in society. Stripping the presence of extended relatives and Elders removes the protective shell that should surround any familial nucleus. These roles have been insidiously replaced by media figures, government and state officials, and peer group culture. Youth are not lost, they’re subverted by these same entities that propagate their “mis-education.”
Your domestic character can be identified in terms of resources, emotional, financial, and physical reinforcement. The defining of kinship can occur over a wide span of activity, ritual, and affirmation in order to learn how these relationships interplay with one another. Here we can create what one would coin as a dysfunctional or functional home life.
Households can also be likened to corporations.
What is a corporate body?
“Corporation: An association of individuals, created by law or under the authority of law, having a continuous existence independent of the existences of its members, and powers and liabilities distinct from those of its members. See also municipal corporation, public corporation.”
An interesting note you’ll find in this definition is the phrase “created by law or under the authority of law”.
Who creates that law? Are we referring to social law or natural law?
Unfortunately, too many home agendas are defined and governed by societal expectations as opposed to internal laws engineered based on cultural/ethnic/genetic/chronological knowing, wisdom, and comprehension. Your kinship must be determined by the paternal and maternal governing body of the household or you’ll create what I call the “Suicidal Family” syndrome.
If your unit is defined by society then, as society ebbs and flows so, does the cohesion of your kindred bond. Civilizations rise and fall. This is the inherent nature of civilizations. Thusly, if your home is governed by societal and civil law; as the walls and fabric of the civilization change or crumble so will the strength of your family unit. So, the strength must be gathered and focused internally.
Your home unit must be a self-defining organism that exists independently of the members participating in the structure. One of the reasons, this is vital is because the family can not exist as a social theocracy. What this means is if society does not “believe” in the substantiation of a particular family or its authority to assert itself as sovereign the members will follow align itself with the external viewpoint.
By creating internal rituals within your home community, you establish community bonds amongst its members.
Corporations have by-laws. Families should draft and operate under custom tailored mission statements. Roles and positions must be identified within the family collective. For example:
Who is the CFO?
Role identification is key as well as conflict resolution and internal counseling procedures.
Any decision made by any member of the family should always be preceded by the question, “Is this best for the family?”.
A question as simple as this excludes societal intrusion and expectation and reaffirms a person independent responsibility within their collection of interdependent relationships.
Remember, to do what is best for the business of family, first.